Stan, originally from Harare, Zimbabwe, cared for Anne after she was diagnosed with PPH in 1999. As her condition deteriorated over the past eight years, he took on increasing caring responsibilities, particularly after his retirement nine years ago. He became her full-time carer for the last 18 months of her life.
PPH is a rare and serious condition that causes high blood pressure in the lungs. Its exact cause is often unknown, and symptoms tend to progress slowly. Anne required multiple medications, which managed the condition but also led to additional health complications.
In June 2022, the couple decided to move to Edinburgh to be closer to their daughter, Shelley. Their move had been planned earlier but was delayed by the COVID-19 pandemic, as Anne’s health required her to shield. Unfortunately, after the move, Anne’s health began to decline further. Their son, Ian, also moved from Australia to Edinburgh for two years to assist in caring for Anne and later to support Stan following her passing.
It was Shelley who encouraged Stan to seek support from VOCAL. Until that point, Stan had not fully considered his role as an unpaid carer or recognised that he too needed help.
“I was just doing what any husband would do for their wife. Anne and I were married for nearly 50 years. She was my ‘5-foot giant warrior.’”
Sadly, Anne passed away just a month after Stan first reached out to VOCAL. However, he continued to access support for a year, attending peer support groups where he connected with other carers.
“It was comforting to meet other men who were also caring for their wives. It made me realise I wasn’t alone in this journey.”
Stan also benefited from VOCAL’s Wee Breaks service, including a discounted gym membership and a free ticket to a whisky-tasting event.
Reflecting on his experience, Stan acknowledged the emotional challenges of being a carer.
“It was frustrating to watch Anne in pain and be unable to control it. But I’m grateful for the support I received. It helped me see my role as a carer and that I needed to care for myself too.”
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